Hey, Faggot:
I consulted my girlfriend, and she thinks he’s an idiot and a freak. I even asked my gynecologist if it was normal for a man to masturbate when he is in a satisfying relationship, and if so, how often and why. After my cave doctor got over the embarrassment of the question, he told me that some men prefer their own hand no matter how experienced or skilled the woman’s. Should I confront my fiance, or would that make matters worse? –Second Best
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You can help him understand the seriousness of the problem–and motivate him to get his ass to a shrink–if you confront him with more than “the look” the next time you find him beating off to Baywatch. You might want to try using your “words.” If getting “caught” gives him a thrill, you’re going to have to figure out together how to channel his catch-me kicks into less abusive and more inclusive sexual activities. You’re going to have to talk it out with him, not your girlfriends, not your clueless cave doctor. It’s not often that I recommend packing someone off to a shrink. If he’s opposed to the idea or you can’t afford a shrink, consider buying yourself a stun gun. Or some pepper spray. Whenever you catch your fiance beating off in front of the computer or TV, let him have it. It’s called “aversion therapy.” Even if it doesn’t solve the problem, it will make “getting caught” more exciting for both of you.
Any suggestions? –Mary
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