I recently met an ambitious, attractive, charming, talented, and terrific young woman. One major problem, though: it turns out this close friend, whom I felt so strongly about, is a racist. Although she has never explicitly voiced her racism, it’s apparent in some subtle comments she’s made. Learning my friend harbored these feelings hurt me. Apparently it wasn’t obvious to her that I come from a multiracial background. I’m saddened and upset. Do you have any idea how one goes about healing from this kind of experience? –Wounded
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How do you go about healing from this traumatic experience? You make up your mind to get over it–stop that pathetic wallowing right now, dammit!–and resolve to take things a bit slower next time you meet someone. And finally, W, whatever the color of your skin–and I suspect it’s as white or whiter than my own–you might want to think about thickening it a bit.
–Uneasy Director
–Won the Lottery
Sorry, no advice for you. No matter how much time you spend rationalizing your fetish–however long you overthink your kink–you can’t make it go away. For as long as you live panties will turn you on, and like HMIP and WTL you’ll just have to accept and celebrate your harmless fetish. If beating off in panties is something you enjoy doing alone, then there’s no need to tell the GF. If you fantasize about wearing panties in front of other people, then tell the GF or dump her and move to SF or NYC, where you can hang out in bars with WTL.
