Hey, Faggot:
What I would like to find is a woman interested in a long-term “friendship with sex,” but I don’t know if that’s realistic. I will never leave G or go behind her back, but I’m sexually frustrated. Assuming G would be willing for our relationship to be “open,” how could I find a lover who would get involved with me under these circumstances?
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That said, maybe once you have permission to look elsewhere, you’ll be more at peace with your sexual lot in life. Oftentimes knowing that we can seize opportunity when opportunity presents itself–or herself–allows us to take a more Zen approach to cheatin’: if it happens, it happens. Considering your circumstances, the Zen approach would be best: looking for something you can’t find may drive you just as nuts as not getting what you need at home.
Hey, Brian:
I’m no novice when it comes to cunnilingus, and I’ve spent many happy hours licking the honey pot. But I had a flu shot that day, and combined with all the drinking, I think it tipped the tongue, if you know what I mean. Problem is, now she won’t speak to me. I really like her! She’s a nice person! I tried to explain, but she doesn’t want to hear about it. Should I accept my loss, or can you think of a way I might be able to bring her around?
Accept your loss. You’ve let her know you’re sorry, but considering what happened the last time she let you bury your face in her crotch, her associations with you may be so negative there’s simply no way she’ll ever overcome them.
