Your boys-will-be-boys advice to Strip Club Widow really bothered me. You told her that most straight guys want to fuck other women, and that she should turn a blind eye to her boyfriend going to strip clubs because it probably helped him blow off that wanna-fuck-other-women steam. Most straight men do not want to fuck around! And though I disagree with that premise, it pisses me off that you imply women don’t lust after 18-year-old boys. Why didn’t you tell her to go to strip clubs?
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As for women lusting after other men, sure, that happens. In fact, there was a story about what tramps women are in the New York Times recently. Researchers studying primates discovered that female chimps and gorillas, the species most closely related to us, messed around behind their fellas’ hairy backs quite a lot. But in primate society, just as in human society, females were sneakier about messing around and messed around for different reasons.
OK, class: Male gorillas collect females in harems, like Mormons hoarding the ladies; male and female chimps, on the other hand, live in large mixed groups with everybody fucking each other’s brains out, like San Franciscans. One researcher was forced to take notes while a lady chimp mated with 84 different males in one night. Since a male chimp’s sperm is forced to compete with sperm of other males in order to pass on his genes, chimps evolved with large testicles that produce rivers of spunk. But since lady gorillas are less likely to fuck males other than their local alpha, male gorillas’ spunk doesn’t have to compete. Consequently, male gorillas evolved with teensy-weensy testes that produce less spunk than male chimps’.
In your response to Strip Club Widow, you said that she should “turn a blind eye” and “pretend that [her] boyfriend doesn’t go to strip clubs.” Why should they lie to each other? Is this how you want your relationship to function?
I’ve never met a couple that didn’t have conflicts over basic issues, like money, work, sex, or kids. Rare are the couples with conflicts over obscure issues, like soybean futures, Canadian foreign policy, or just what exactly is up with John McCain’s neck. I don’t know about the planet you’re on, PIAW, but here on planet earth even the best romantic relationship is essentially a conflict-a-thon made tolerable by the occasional orgasm.
