Hey, Faggot:
“If she wants to do a sexy femme top scene with no pain, I would suggest sensory deprivation combined with a lot of suspense and mindfucks.” Now, without S/M jargon: “Get dressed in sexy lingerie or something fetishy. Tie him up, blindfold him, and gag him.” Get real leather restraints if you can afford them. Handcuffs hurt, and badly done rope bondage can lead to burns, pinched nerves, and amputated limbs. Restraints buckle on like belts, are practically foolproof, and they’re easier to remove if the boyfriend freaks.
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Once he’s bound, Mistress Matisse believes that if you can’t beat him, scare him: “Start talking to him about all the things you could do. My rap goes like this: ‘You know, baby, there are a lot of things you don’t know about me. It’s sooo sexy having you all tied up and helpless–I could do anything I want to you, and you can’t stop me…’ Say this slow and thoughtful, like you’re considering some very evil shit. Then tell him you’re going to leave him there alone while you go get some ‘things.’ Walk to the bedroom door, open it and close it, but don’t really leave the room (never actually leave anyone alone tied up). Stand very quietly and watch him. Is he struggling? Is his dick hard? Wait a minute, then quietly approach him and whisper in his ear, ‘Are you thinking about me?’ But don’t get too close–if he jumps you’ll bang heads.
I’ve become involved with one of the nicest and sexiest people around. So what’s the bad news? This person’s introduction to sex at a very early age (child abuse) was coupled with violence and degrading talk (thanks to some really fucked-up family members), so you can probably guess what this person wants me to do during our sexual encounters.
I am a single female. I have a special desire which I have never fulfilled due to shyness. I have always wanted to hurt a man sexually. I want to see a man scream and writhe in pain. I need this satisfaction to cure a rage in me to physically hurt them. My long-standing fantasy has been to tie up or cuff a man and stick his body, including his penis, with a million stickpins. I want to draw blood. I want to see him scream and beg for mercy. I have been always fearful of expressing this desire, but I want this now. Can you understand the meaning of this? Why must I do this? Have you ever heard of this? –Joan
