I’m still on vacation–here’s another of my “greatest hits.”
When we had a discussion that I wasn’t happy with the decline in the frequency of our lovemaking, we entered into an agreement for a once-a-week date night, but lately it’s really been making me feel rejected, like he’s only putting out to live up to the bargain–which is making me feel less desirable than ever. My self-esteem is really suffering because the sexual side of me is so important. There are, of course, different reasons why someone wouldn’t find someone else sexually attractive. He grew up with images of women from comic books and movies, both of which he still avidly consumes. Intellectually, he understands from a feminist perspective what such images do to women, but I don’t think he’s grasped the idea from a psychological perspective.
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My turn. I’m the het white male engaged to Wedding Bell Blues. We have a terrific home life. I enjoy her company and love coming home to her every day. She is a beautiful person whom I love dearly and am looking forward to spending the rest of my life with.
–No Sex Please
When you realized that WBB did not the least bit attract you, you should have quickly and respectfully ended this relationship, without going out of your way to tell her that it was because, oh, her fat ass makes your dick go limp. By drawing this out you have turned what could have been a short-lived, fondly remembered affair into a self-esteem-destroying virus that could eat away at this woman for the rest of her life. If this is how you treat a woman you love, I’d hate to see what you’d do to a woman you dislike.
