Hey, Faggot:
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Sure, it’s possible to be a healthy human being with no interest in sex, no desires, no urges, no lust, no nothin’. It isn’t possible, however, to be in a romantic, come-here-you-beautiful-hunk-of-woman sexual relationship with someone like that without losing your mind. If you’ve been hanging in there all these years in hopes that when she finally got her shit together you could have the nonplatonic sex-love-rock ‘n’ roll relationship you desire, and she ceases to assemble her shit just short of that goal, well, that’s when it’s time to walk. There’s nothing wrong with someone not having sex, but there is something wrong with someone letting you hang around for years waiting and waiting for sex. It doesn’t sound like she needs or wants a lover; it sounds like she wants a friend. You can be her friend, love her very much, and go find someone else to fall in love with, someone who’ll fuck you every once in a while. Maybe someone who isn’t such a selfish mess?
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