Hey, Faggot:
Laugh? You have all my sympathy, Mariah. I take your problem very seriously, and my first thought upon reading your letter was that the root of your problem must be your diet: What you put in your mouth largely determines the odor of what comes out your pooter, pores, and pits. Actually, that was my second thought. My first was relief that your letter was postmarked from a distant state, making it unlikely that I will ever find myself trapped behind you in line at the supermarket.
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My husband is 20 years older than me (he’s 50). He is a superb lover, except he has some trouble sometimes finishing up. He resorts to fantasies out loud to speed things up. His favorite is to talk about us having group sex. He is very specific. Sometimes it is about another woman with him, and sometimes me with another man and him watching. Whenever he starts talking like this I feel bad, and I don’t feel close to him after. None of that snuggly thing. I just want to get up and do something else–and not with him–because it hurts my feelings. When I’ve talked to him about this he says it’s just a fantasy, and I don’t want to take that away from him. Can I do something to not feel so bad? –Dawn
–Cautious and Frustrated
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