I am a 21-year-old male, straight, and a virgin. I’ve been waiting to find the right woman, and she’s obviously somewhat reclusive. I have been propositioned by quite a few homosexuals, and while I’ve never been attracted to men, I do find the attention flattering. Anyhow, I’m starting to think that maybe I am gay and just don’t know it. I haven’t gotten my dick sucked in over six months, and the right hand isn’t doing it anymore. I want to get my dick wet! Should I go along with some dude?
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Unless you’re downplaying an attraction to men and overplaying your passion for women, you’re not gay. If you were gay, Rocko would’ve let you know long ago. So how can a guy who isn’t gay–that’s you, CAC–contemplate getting blow jobs from guys who are? Because you’re a horny little shit and you’re not having any luck with women. Situational homosexuality is a fancy phrase used to describe the behavior of straight guys who have sex with men in pussy-free environments like prison. These guys have gay sex because they have no other option. You may not be in prison, CAC, but you are in despair, and despairing of ever getting your dick wet again is leading you to contemplate situational homosexuality.
Don’t feel bad, CAC: If you “go along with some dude,” you’ll be reviving a grand old tradition, just like modern-day swing dancers. Lots of straight men used to indulge in homosexual sex when they couldn’t get their hands on women. Once upon a time, getting a blow job from another guy didn’t mean a guy was gay, only that he was desperate; only guys giving the blow jobs were gay. Then the gay liberation movement came along and ruined everything. By insisting that it made no difference who was giving and who was getting–both guys were gay–gay libbers scared off the straight boys. These days, only straight men trapped in all-male environments with no hope of escape (prisons, pirate ships, Vatican City) indulge in situational homosexuality. And it’s a crying shame.
I’m 22 years old and gay; my roommate is 28 years old and straight. I met him at my gym and moved in when he needed a roommate. One drunken night he confessed to me that he likes to be tied up and his girlfriend won’t do it. A week later, another drunken confession: He would let a gay guy tie him up, but only if there wasn’t any sex involved. During his third drunken-hint-dropping session, my roommate asks me to tie him up. Bondage doesn’t turn me on, but my roommate does–he’s got an amazing body–so I did it. Now we do it at least twice a week. After I let him go, he goes to his room and beats off, and I beat off in my room.
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